Parenting Articles

Ask What, Not How

As a play coach, I conduct workshops to help adults reconnect with the skills and perspectives that encourage play, which are often dormant in grown-ups. In one of my Remembering to Play events, a father shared that his young son expressed interest...

The Beauty of Fathering During Pregnancy: What Babies are Teaching Us

Our core understandings of babies and early human experience are in the midst of a fundamental paradigm shift. In my article “Consciousness at the Beginning of Life,” published in the previous issue of Pathways [Issue 57, Spring 2018], I...

How Kids Benefit from Real Responsibilities

Years ago, my two older kids, about 7 and 9 at the time, were getting ready to wash the floor. A neighbor girl knocked at the door, asking to play. When my son told her he was going to wash the floor first, she begged to be included. This girl had...

Competition VS. Creativity: Which "State" Do You Live In

We civilized folk seem to be addicted to competition—obsessed with who is the best and the worst, who has the most and the least, who are the winners and the losers. In our culture we habitually frame most everything in terms of conflict and...

5 Ways Partners Can Support Breastfeeding Moms (A Dad's Perspective)

When I read articles and stories about breastfeeding, I frequently come across the comment that breastfeeding leads to a diminished role for the dad. After all, if only Mom can feed the baby, how will Dad get a chance to bond with his child? This...

Safe to Explode: The Actual Reason Children are 800 Percent Worse When Their Mothers are in the Room

“They were fine all day with me, but the second they saw you, they lost it, Kate! I don’t understand!” My husband says this on a regular basis.

Kids Don't "Fight" Sleep: What's Really Happening When Kids Resist Bedtime

We’ve all experienced kids “fighting” sleep—and boy, is it ever annoying! But are they really fighting it, or is something else going on? My oldest daughter could have been categorized as one who “fights sleep.” From the day she was born, those...

There Is No Normal

I got a letter the other day from a woman training to be a special education teacher in Ohio. Reading my book Teaching the Restless was bringing up her concerns about certain things she had observed during student teaching sessions with several...

Deschooling in School

The things I learned well have all been things I chose to learn. This is true for everyone I know, including the students I have had in my classroom for the past 25 years. Learning happens best when the learner decides what, how, and why to learn....

A Message from our Editor, Issue #58 - Guarding the Sacred Space

Almost daily, I see parents discussing the benefits of chiropractic care for their children. What many do not know is that chiropractors have included children in their recommendations for health and well-being since the inception of chiropractic....

A Message from our Editor, Issue #57- Mamatoto

The East African language Swahili has a word that captures the inseparableness of a mother and her newborn child: “Mamatoto.” It means “mother-baby,” and it shows us that the mother and baby share an experience as being fundamentally one.

Consciousness at the Beginning of Life

I began my career in the 1970s, as an obstetrical nurse and childbirth educator in Kentucky. I loved caring for parents as they birthed and raised their babies. To be at the leading edge of my work, I earned my master’s degree in early development a...

How Rest Saved My Soul

When a mom drives her minivan by an empty park in a raging thunderstorm and sits there for an hour, screaming and in tears, people might think she’s nuts. I know that’s what I thought of myself. You’ve completely lost it. You’re out of control...

Present from the Start

Allowing Your Child to Attend a Sibling’s Birth and Ways to PrepareI’m often asked whether it’s a good idea to have siblings attend the birth of their new brother or sister. It’s a question that’s almost impossible for anyone other than a...

My Baby is Unsettled: How Chiropractic Helps

Most new parents struggle when their baby is unsettled. It’s hard enough to adapt and care for a tiny human, but it takes an immense amount of energy and patience when that baby is uncomfortable and unwell. As a chiropractor, I know that c...

Does My Baby Have Allergies Already?

In my capacity as a chiropractor and mindset/lifestyle coach specializing in German New Medicine, I am a member of a lot of holistic parenting groups and I see a lot of rashy baby photos, with parents inquiring what the source of the rash might be....

Cleaning Up the Heartbreak

We were on our way out the door, which has always been a little stressful since we had children. There’s just something about making ourselves and our kids look presentable—all at the same time—that causes tensions to run high. On this...

Managing Expectations

When I’m out, I often see a parent and a child in a struggle caused by the parent having an unrealistic expectation. This makes me so sad for both of them. The struggles I’m talking about are ones where if the expectations, the environment, or...

How to Ruin Children's Play: Supervise, Praise, Intervene

My soul has been stirred by many of nature’s wonders— by orange and yellow leaves sparkling in the autumn sun, by mallards landing softly on still waters at dusk, by clouds drifting by as I lie on my back, gazing upward. But of all of nature’s scene...

Love for the Unknown

After dating for eight years, followed by 14 months of planning, my husband and I finally tied the knot. Then, about six weeks before the wedding, we conceived. So, we thought, what better time than our wedding to announce our pregnancy? Everyone...