Birth Skills Testimonials
To give a firsthand experience of how powerful Birthing Better skills can be, we’re turning to the people who know it best: The parents who’ve used these skills to bring their children into the world.
“I feel very proud of the way I handled the births of both my boys. I felt empowered and in control (most of the time), and when I lost it a little, I was able to refocus. I put this down to the skills my husband, Matt, and I learned by working through the Birthing Better resource.” —Birthing Better mother.
“I wish to tell you of my experience of Birthing Better skills and how the information I learned from this helped me to have the most wonderful and empowering birth. I can say this because I was absolutely terrified about giving birth. I gave birth seven months ago to my first child. He was born after eight hours of labor, during which time I was able to relax and internalize the pain of labor and turn it into a positive pain, with each contraction being a step further toward meeting my child. It really helped speed up the whole process with the midwife using the hip lift (one of the bodywork moves learned in the course), taking, I believe, hours off the birth (I went from 5cm to pushing in about 10 minutes after the lift!). The “internal work” [preparing the muscles and tissues of the birth canal prior to birth], I believe, also made the pushing part a lot easier and quicker. Although it felt like hours at the time, it was only 45 minutes and I had no stitches. When anyone ever asks me about my birth, I cannot shut up. I had such an amazing and confidence building experience, and I feel very lucky to have learned the skills. I can tell every terrified mom-to-be that you can manage labor pain. Learn the skills!”
“I am feeling pretty good about my upcoming labor and delivery, and made an interesting discovery last week while practicing the hip lift with my husband. This babe sits quite low in my pelvis and has introduced me to a number of nerves I didn’t know much about. It has also been leaning quite heavily on my inner left hip (near the sit bone). These past weeks I have often found walking to be a challenge (I do a fair amount of it to get the older one to and from school). I have been taking daily baths and right lying to get some relief. And then last week, after practicing a left hip lift in the evening, I found the next day (and ever since) to be so much better. The babe is still very low but has hopped off my left inner hip and feels more centrally placed. I felt so pleased to find the Birthing Better resource working for me even before labor has begun.”
“I studied the pink kit and my husband was all for learning the different positions, especially if it was to help my birthing experience be drug-free, which was what I was aiming for. Our beautiful baby girl was born after a relatively stress-free and drug-free labor. What an amazing experience! Go, sit bone spread! My husband was my rock; the men have to be involved! He kept my breathing focused and overall contributed to our wonderful experience. I recommend Birthing Better birth skills to every family who is willing to learn and be open-minded toward learning about their bodies.”
“I feel very proud of the way I handled the births of both my boys. I felt empowered and in control (most of the time), and when I lost it a little, I was able to refocus. I put this down to the skills my husband, Matt, and I learned by working through the Birthing Better resource. Images portrayed on the TV of the
screaming woman swearing at her partner don’t help when you are facing birth for the first time. Instead, I think that society should expect women to learn how to give birth. I was told many times throughout my pregnancy that my body would know what to do, but how could that be possible if my mind hadn’t connected with it? The classes at the hospital were all about information and choices—the choice of hospital, pain relief, natural birth, caesarian, etc. I really felt that there was something missing. Where were the breathing classes that my Mum went to in her day? We are expected to make choices but are not expected or given the opportunity to learn the necessary skills. I believe that all pregnant women should have access to Birthing Better skills to learn about their birthing body, mentally prepare for what lies ahead, and have communication skills and coping mechanisms in place before their birth. If you’ve done the work for yourself, it will come naturally on the day. You’ll instinctively know not to tense up, and if you do start to feel tense, you have the practiced skills to release that tension. If you don’t realize you are tensing up, your birthing partner will have learned to recognize your breathing signs and will know the best way to communicate that to you, because you have practiced it together. If it doesn’t quite go the way you planned, you’ve learned the skills to adapt and cope with every eventuality. Many dads I know felt powerless at the births of their children, and hated seeing their partners in pain and unable to do anything to help. They felt totally unconnected to the birthing experience. If you do the Birthing Better work together, it’s a shared experience. As a birthing woman, you don’t feel like you’re out there on your own, and your partner is providing very valuable support. All I can say now is I had two great birthing experiences, and I look back on them with a sense of pride. For a lot of my friends (who didn’t have access to Birthing Better skills), it’s a very different story.”
“In practical terms, the knowledge Birthing Better skills gave me about my wife’s body, what was going to happen to it and the baby, and what we could do to prepare, was immense. We went through the resource in stages, bit by bit; the video, the book, the skills. The crux of it was, that as we went into labor, yes, I was as nervous as the next person—but I also knew that I had the skills and knowledge to draw on when they were needed. As labor progressed, we were able to make life more comfortable and help things along with the hip lifts, sit bone spreads, and sacral rocks, to name a few. I wasn’t the one doing all the hard work, but I did seem to spend the whole 16 hours of labor telling my wife to relax and focus on her breathing. Simple stuff, really, but as I came to realize, essential. Focus, breathe, focus, breathe. Here comes another contraction, focus, breathe. At times during the labor, we needed to do the exercises to help move the baby down and to help relieve some of the pain, so we just got on with it, as we’d been shown. Take it from me: If you try nothing else, the sit bone spread gets great results! Had the Birthing Better skills not enlightened me as to what was going on and just why breathing, relaxing, and moving into certain positions was beneficial, I would have been one of those guys at the back of the room feeling helpless and passive. For me, the tangible benefits of the skills are really highlighted not just by me recalling my own experience, but also when I see fathers-to-be without those skills—like going into unknown territory without a map. Sure, they will get through in the end, but I found that investing a little time and effort made me a lot better prepared for the journey and what I needed to do to stay on track. And so as it was, I was right there, helping. Helping out with the birth of our son in a very real way. It was an honor and an experience which will stay with me for a lifetime, and it’s thanks in no small way to Birthing Better skills.”
“I am 100% certain that without the knowledge of the Birthing Better skills we would have had a very different birthing experience. If you are a male and extremely lucky in life, you not only get to witness the birth of your child, but also actively take part in that birth. I would only have cut the cord without the knowledge of Birthing Better. Instead, I worked through each contraction, painful as they were. Being with my wife through her pain, and knowing that what we did together made each contraction more manageable, made me feel so GOOD. You have to go through the pain together. It’s important. We had an absolutely amazing birth. I’m a changed man. Absolutely every man who is going to be a father must help his wife for the last 8 to 12 weeks of pregnancy. The payoff is so big. Don’t miss it.”
“Many dads I know felt powerless at the births of their children, and hated seeing their partners in pain and unable to do anything to help. They felt totally unconnected to the birthing experience. If you do the Birthing Better work together, it’s a shared experience.” —Birthing Better dad.
“I have been taking daily baths and right lying to get some relief. And then last week, after practicing a left hip lift in the evening, I found the next day (and ever since) to be so much better. The babe is still very low but has hopped off my left inner hip and feels more centrally placed. I felt so pleased to find the Birthing Better resource working for me even before labor has begun.”