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|Happy Healthy Child: A Holistic Approach|
Kamrath: Great. In addition to learning to trust our own intuition, can you talk about how much easier our job as a parent is when we learn to listen to our babies and follow their lead when it comes to caring for them most appropriately?
Lipton: When a human is born, they’re already filled with an intuitive knowledge of centuries and centuries of people beforehand. A child has wisdom. Their cells have wisdom. If we listen to that wisdom, it’s very instructive. If we ignore it because of our hubris and think, “We are intelligent, the baby’s not intelligent, we’ll tell the baby what to need,” then what we’re really doing is stepping on Mother Nature’s natural intelligence. So, it’s really incumbent upon us to let go and follow the natural instincts. When you’re living in harmony, you can feel it. When you’re pushing on the system, if you’re sensitive enough, you can feel you’re doing that. What we really require is the sensitivity to recognize that a child is extremely intelligent.
We have stopped listening to nature. And this is the biggest problem that humanity is facing. Our inability to understand nature has led to a state where human civilization is facing extinction because of the way we are damaging nature and destroying the environment without owning the truth—we are the environment. It’s time to return to the natural understanding, to the innate intelligence of the entire world, not just of the baby that’s born. The entire world, the entire biosphere, is an intelligent system. And right now, the least intelligent unit appears to be the human, but we’re being forced to look at life in a different way.
Kamrath: Along those same lines, the instinct to be close to our babies and nurture them is built into every parent. However, rather than encouraging physical closeness, our current cultural practices often seem to discourage it—e.g., sleep training techniques, letting babies “cry it out,” etc. Can you talk about some of the implications of these practices?
Lipton: I grew up as a child under the direction of Dr. Spock, my mother’s guide for child rearing. And in that book, he was the one who said when a child cries, just leave him alone, he’ll get over it. We now know that there’s a lot more intelligence in that child than people used to believe. They used to think that a child doesn’t really know much until it learns something, that the brain is a big, empty void. But this is false. The brain is totally active, even before the child’s born. When a baby is crying out, he is crying out because he’s disconnected, lost or unsure of the world that he’s living in. He’s crying out for some kind of information that says, “I’m safe, I’m okay, there are people around, I’m not lost.” If a child doesn’t receive any response to his crying, then he begins to build a deeper hole of protection, saying, “Oh my God, I’m not safe in this world.” A need to protect himself makes a child go inward. Growth is expanding outward and bringing life in. If there’s not enough loving support and assurances that the world is safe for a child, then he will take a protection posture, which, by definition, is shutting himself down. It is the most unhealthy biology for a human because protection does not support the growth and maintenance of our biology. The stress hormones actually shut down the growth mechanisms and the immune system in a child.
Kamrath: When a mother hears her baby cry, it evokes a deep desire to comfort him. Can you talk about how mothers and babies really are one single biological unit, and how teaching a mother to ignore her baby is very unnatural?
Lipton: There are some very interesting relationships between a mother and a child beyond the physical. This is very important for us to understand these days, because our conventional science, which is called materialistic science, is based on the physical material, mechanical world. We look at the body as a machine, and we affect it with drugs and chemistry. But through quantum mechanics—the new physics—we have started to recognize that the invisible energy fields are actually more primary in shaping the material world than the material world is in shaping itself. What we begin to find out is that a mother and child are connected not just by their physical connection, but through energetic connections. If you look at the brain wave of a young child, it’s connected and synchronized with the brain activity of the mother. To have the ability to thrive in the world, the child must be connected to the mother, because the mother is the primary linkage for survival.
When a fetus is growing in a mother, many of the fetal cells become stem cells in the mother’s system. They found this out when studying liver regeneration in adults. They started looking at some biopsies and found one particular woman whose regenerated liver cells were male liver cells. They discovered that she had a male child and that the stem cells from the fetus became stem cells in the mother which, it turn, were used by the mother in regenerating her own liver. Another study found that many of these fetal stem cells also end up in the brain. What’s the relevance of that? The fetal stem cells are receiving the input or imprint from the identity of the fetus. So the mother is not just reading her life, she’s also getting signals from her fetus. And significantly, the fetus also gets some stem cells from the mother. There are cells that are connected between the two and because the cells are the recipients of the identity, the cells are reading the lives of both of these individuals. So a mother is still connected to her child, even after the child has left home. This would explain why mothers, for example, become very acutely aware of something going wrong with their children, even if they’re on the other side of the world. When the child is having an experience over here, even the mother over there has an awareness of that experience. Now there’s a continuity that we really need to look at.
Kamrath: Can we finish up by you sharing your thoughts on what you believe is the most important factor in raising happy, healthy children?
Lipton: Today’s world is very interesting in regard to what we find makes a successful human. We judge our success by material possessions, which is understandable in a world based on Newtonian physics that says “matter is primary.” And we measure how successful we are by how many toys we end up having, how much we own—this gives us our status in a hierarchy. Well, the problem with this is that this is not really where health and happiness come from. Health and happiness come from harmony within the body. So, you might ask, what would that represent? And I say love. You say, well that’s a nice emotional word and all that. But, actually love becomes physiological. The sensation of love releases all the chemicals that provide for the growth and maintenance and health of the body. So the matter of being in love keeps us in a chemical environment that supports our vitality and our growth. Love becomes biochemistry. And the biochemistry of love is the most health-promoting, growth-promoting chemistry that you can have.
Excerpts from this interview with Dr. Bruce Lipton can be seen in the Happy Healthy Child: A Holistic Approach DVD series, due to be released in early 2012. Learn more at happyhealthychild.com.
This article appeared in Pathways to Family Wellness magazine, Issue #32.
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