Parenting Articles

Wholeness, Not Perfectionism

“Do not doubt your own basic goodness. In spite of all confusion and fear, you are born with a heart that knows what is just, loving, and beautiful.”

Your Child is Like the Rain: A Guide for the Peaceful Parent

When our neighboring Mount St. Helens recently started to rumble, one of my children asked, “Do people who live close by get mad when the volcano erupts?” “Do you get mad at the rain?” I asked. While he was pondering my question, his...

Also labeled: Author Naomi Aldort, Issue #30

Teen Parenting: An Alternative Perspective

I was a teen parent in the late 1950s, when getting married was virtually the only way to go. I am so grateful now that abortion was not a viable option. My beautiful daughter turned fifty last year. She is a ceramic artist and mother to a young...

The Important First Nine Months of Life

In my novel, The Birth of Hope, I created an idealized version of what a baby preparing for birth may be thinking and feeling. (You can read a quote from it atop the next page.) We have no scientific way of knowing if thoughts are even possible...

Parenting Within Civilization

It is true that our very long dependency period and intense vulnerability can result in horrific patterns—aggression, fear and greed—caused by trauma and conditioning. But when we emerge and grow under the right conditions, human essence naturally...

The Science of Father’s Love

The transition to fatherhood is one of the most significant and challenging experiences a man will ever face. In order to have a satisfying and successful experience, fathers must feel safe, supported and confident. To optimize the possibilities...

Self-Care for Mothers

Of all the problems of modern life, few are more pervasive than stress. Stress and fatigue are signals that you are not giving enough to yourself. Stress can cause a wide variety of ailments and serious diseases, including allergies, pain and heart...

A 21st Century Manifesto for Parenting

Is Western civilization harming our children? Let’s look at the evidence. If health indicates the quality of an individual’s relationship with his environment, then increases in chronic illnesses among children reflect our society’s failu...

Protecting the Cave

The ancient archetype of a father during birth is that of him standing guard at the opening of the cave, protecting the birthing mother and newborn from danger. As we move through time, he comes closer to the actual location of the birth...

Parenting the Whole Child: Nurturing the Connections Between Emotion, Intellect, Body and Spirit

Our western worldview has given us a fragmented picture of the self. As a result, we have developed segmented disciplines in our society. Medicine treats the body’s symptoms; psychology deals with the emotions; education trains the intellect; r...

Reflections on Isolation

We are not alone in our parenting ways. We are all here together, connected as part of the whole. And the parents who do it all differently are connected with us, too. We just may not recognize it yet.

Also labeled: Author Naomi Aldort, Issue #22

Healing Our Children with Attentional, Emotional, and Learning Challenges

There is an epidemic in our society. More and more children are being assigned more and more labels. These labels include attention deficit disorder (ADD), attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), receptive and/or expressive language...

Understanding Parents of Children with Autism

I dedicate this article to parents of children with autism and the friends and families who support them unconditionally. For most parents of children with autism, discovering their child has the disorder is an overwhelmingly traumatic experience....

Moms & Dads, Who is the Boss of You? The Force of Culture on Birth and Parenting Choices

By Marcy Axness, PhD (with contributions from Robbie Davis-Floyd, PhD) Few things get me as riled up as people or companies that parlay the fragile hopes of well-meaning parents into a fat bottom line. Take, oh, for example, the Baby...

Children Who Feel Loved Are More Loving

Author Louise Hart wrote, “How many of you think your parents loved you as a child? Now, how many of you felt loved as a child?” When Hart speaks to parent groups she asks those two questions and consistently gets the same response. When she asks the...

The Joy of Being a Mother

Being a mother can be much more joyful than we make it, if we learn to recognize when and why we make it harder than it should be. As a pediatrician, I often ask mothers to stop regretting the past, as well as to stop worrying obsessively about the...

Along Came Autism: Dominick’s Story

I think any mother first looks at her newborn son, all pink and soft, and dreams of his future. Maybe he’ll be a doctor, a lawyer, or a teacher. President, perhaps? Well, I knew my Dominick was meant to be something greater. My son was born...

What Babies Really Need

As they contemplate the birth of a new baby, parents wonder exactly what it is they will need to buy—after all, there is so much new parenting paraphenalia available. Yet one of the obstacles that can get between us and a full experience of m...

Raising Generation Pax: Peace Begins with How We Parent…From the Very Beginning

A Universal Peace Offering The universe has presented us with a powerful means of creating peace: the way we bring our children to life. Important principles about the influence of our thoughts and attitudes, together with...

“For the Sake of the Children” Cooperative CO-Parenting During and After Divorce

In 20 years of being a family child care provider and 12 years of conducting parenting workshops I have seen parents struggle with and children suffer from uncooperative CO -parenting. Years ago when couples found themselves in an unhappy,...