Parenting Articles

The Twinkle in Your Parents' Eyes: Conscious Conception and Conscious Pregnancy

You know the expression, “When you were only a twinkle in your parents’ eyes.” The phrase conjures up the happiness of loving parents who truly want to conceive a child. It turns out it is also a phrase that sums up the latest genetic research...

The Myth of Self-Settling

Many people, parents and experts alike, advocate the idea of “teaching a baby to self-settle” or “self-soothe.” Self-soothing is often referred to as the holy grail of baby sleep. Once babies can self-soothe, parents are told to expect uninter...

Diagnosis: Does It Help or Hurt?

I received an e-mail yesterday talking about yet another “new” disorder. This disorder was for people who fixate on eating healthy. The author was talking about how people who don’t care what they are eating are “healthy,” and those who do care have a...

Letting Go

Being a mother to four young children can be an extremely challenging feat. There are days when I feel like everyone’s needs are clashing and I am left wondering if anyone is even remotely getting what they need. With four, or more, different ideas...

Routes Toward Trustful Parenting in Our Time

A variety of social trends have conspired to reduce trustful parenting, promote directive-protective parenting, and reduce children’s freedom over the past several decades. These include the decline of neighborhoods and loss of children’s outdoor pla...

On Becoming a Father

In Ancient Rome, to be a father, it was not enough to conceive the child. In fact, biological lineage did not matter. A man had to publicly declare his will and intention to become the child’s pater (the Latin word for father). The ceremony was...

Believing: The Neuroscience of Reverse Truths

While my children’s adolescence cured me of most of my theories, a few fundamental ones survived, and are even more boldly illuminated against the backdrop of passing years. One of these survivors is the principle of reverse truths. In traditional...

Mother and Child are Linked at the Cellular Level

The Mother and Child Connection As we approach this Mother’s Day, I wish to honor all mothers and show an understanding of the healing relationship we have shared with our mothers and our children, and how they have reciprocated this...

Why Children Need Community

Our indigenous roots reveal that children want and need to move beyond attachment to their parents.I’m all for natural parenting. The basic premise of such parenting, at least as I view it, is that you trust your children’s instincts and...

Compassion at Her Core

For the Batek people of Malaysia, nurturance equals leadership.Tanyogn was the kind of person who would be an asset to any community. She was highly intelligent, able to see through specious arguments, able to judge when the traders from...

Attachment and the Development of Resilience

As parents, we want nothing more than for our children to grow into autonomous, responsible, happy adults capable of living authentic, purposeful lives. Our relationship with them—described by scientists as attachment—is the single most important...

11 Things I Wish Every Parent Knew

After 25 years practicing pediatrics, and caring for thousands of children, I’ve noticed some patterns that offer me a deeper vision of health. I’d like to share some of those invaluable lessons with parents.

Making the Connection: How to Talk to Kids So They Respond!

Are you wondering how you can connect more deeply with your child? Would you like to know how to talk to kids using peaceful conflictresolution strategies to ease tension or calm aggressive behavior in children? Often, we can be triggered by...

You’re Glowing. Literally: So Be Sure to Shine on Your Kids

A 2009 study by several Japanese scientists found that “the human body literally glimmers.” It turns out that the light the body gives off is of 1,000 times lower intensity than the sensitivity of our naked eyes. They found this by making a rather...

Go Ahead... Use the F Word

F-F-F-F-Father. Why do you suppose we have such a hard time using that word in our parenting culture? Almost three years ago I decided that the next phase of my career would be fatherhood education and support—specifically early fatherhood,...

One Conscious Path in Parenting

As I opened the doors to the grand ballroom, I felt the spirited energy of the current presenter, Howard Moody. He was engaging the audience in an activity that allowed them to discover their playfulness. I scanned the room. It was packed to...

Learning to Trust Our Intuition

“The only really valuable thing is intuition.” —Albert EinsteinAlthough intuition is an innate capacity that is available to everyone (and can be our great...

Lessons Learned in Baby’s First Year

In big moments I am at my least articulate, because so many ideas flow into my head at once. Sorting through them is a chore, and I stumble around. This is my seventh attempt at writing this piece. The big moment is my daughter’s first birthday, w...

Harvesting Happiness in Motherhood

I am the mother of two beautiful children. I have been through those infant years of midnight feedings and endless diaper changes, soothing tears and singing lullabies. There were times when I looked in the mirror after a long, sleep-deprived...

Attention-Seeking is a Big Fat Lie

You don’t have to spend much time around parents, teachers, or experts to hear the phrase, “They’re just seeking attention.” While tricks abound about how to suppress attention-seeking, what continuously baffles me is the lack of interest in what lies...