Parenting Articles

Unchecked Power

Robert F. Kennedy Jr.’s speech on the corruption surrounding the CDC’s vaccine division I was dragged, kicking and screaming, into this fight. And it was by a series of extraordinary women who, year after year, when I spoke about mercury...

Children Who Shine from Within

What’s your favorite insect?” my 7-year-old daughter asked as we took an evening walk on the first night of her spring vacation. Before I had a chance to respond, she added, “You can’t pick butterfly. Everyone picks the butterfly.”

Parenting Lessons from Tribes Around the World

A conversation with photographer Jimmy Nelson.Last year, while heavily pregnant, I attended a talk by acclaimed photographer Jimmy Nelson in our local café here in Amsterdam. He was speaking about his new book, Before They Pass Away, and...

What Do You Really Want for Your Children?

An interview with Dr. Wayne DyerHow often, as a parent or grandparent, do you wonder (and worry) whether you are capable of providing the guidance necessary for children to emerge as healthy, self-reliant, resilient and confident adults?

The Importance of Being Around: A Life Lesson on Being a Dad

“Be around.” That’s the first rule on being a father. It’s the easiest to accomplish and the easiest to fail. Men want to be around. They have wives. They have children. They know they should be with them. So where in the hell are they?...

Preparing Our Daughters: A Conscious Shift into the Challenges of Puberty

Our daughters are losing their amazing, full-of-themselves smiles, the ones that break our hearts with their beauty and lack of guile. Something is making them anxious and afraid. You can see it in their worried, critical expressions when they look...

"Be Still, Mumma": Slowly Embracing the Stillness of Motherhood

It’s lucky I chortle at irony. Motherhood is full of it; I have never loved so deeply nor have I ever felt such fury and willingness to kill when it comes to the beings that I love. I have never been so busy nor have I been so present.

Silence Is Golden: How to Respond Respectfully to Unwanted Parenting Advice and Judgment

Parenting can bring out the most interesting advice and remarks from people whom we may not even know—and, of course, from those close to us as well. Sometimes we don’t want this advice. Sometimes we resist it with every fiber of our being. There are...

Also labeled: Author Amy Phoenix, Issue #45

Signal Boost: Send Your Teen These Messages Instead of a Text

Social media has a reputation for being nothing but trouble for teenagers. There are many upsides to social media, not least of which is that it provides a way for teens to connect with one another. What concerns me more than simply the time spent...

A Message to Mums

My mother and father grew up in a society with no overprotective impulses—totally without cotton wool, as we say in New Zealand. Kids got on their bikes and were gone for the day. All was well as long as they were home for supper, or there’d be hel...

Where Are the Happy Babies?

Have we forgotten what babies need from (all of) us?I was so glad to meet a happy, confident, socially engaged baby this week. Baby Loren was a stark contrast to most babies that I encounter these days. Most tend to look distracted, unhappy,...

Raising A New Generation of Strong Women

Imagine if you were taught from an early age that, as Carla Hartley puts it, “birth is a medical event, preceded by an illness called pregnancy and ending with an emergency called labor.”

Face Off

No one likes getting caught in the crossfire of the Mommy Wars. But calling for a truce is misguided and dangerous.Ending the so-called “mommy wars” has become quite the news item, and one that everyone seems to get on board with. I mean, how...

A Question of Respect

(Or, Grown-Ups and Their Double Standards)When I decided I wanted to write a piece on respect, I imagined I’d do some kind of in-depth examination of one central, juicy question. Somewhat predictably, on the journey of looking for it, I...

The Twinkle in Your Parents' Eyes: Conscious Conception and Conscious Pregnancy

You know the expression, “When you were only a twinkle in your parents’ eyes.” The phrase conjures up the happiness of loving parents who truly want to conceive a child. It turns out it is also a phrase that sums up the latest genetic research...

The Myth of Self-Settling

Many people, parents and experts alike, advocate the idea of “teaching a baby to self-settle” or “self-soothe.” Self-soothing is often referred to as the holy grail of baby sleep. Once babies can self-soothe, parents are told to expect uninter...

Diagnosis: Does It Help or Hurt?

I received an e-mail yesterday talking about yet another “new” disorder. This disorder was for people who fixate on eating healthy. The author was talking about how people who don’t care what they are eating are “healthy,” and those who do care have a...

Letting Go

Being a mother to four young children can be an extremely challenging feat. There are days when I feel like everyone’s needs are clashing and I am left wondering if anyone is even remotely getting what they need. With four, or more, different ideas...

Routes Toward Trustful Parenting in Our Time

A variety of social trends have conspired to reduce trustful parenting, promote directive-protective parenting, and reduce children’s freedom over the past several decades. These include the decline of neighborhoods and loss of children’s outdoor pla...

On Becoming a Father

In Ancient Rome, to be a father, it was not enough to conceive the child. In fact, biological lineage did not matter. A man had to publicly declare his will and intention to become the child’s pater (the Latin word for father). The ceremony was...