Parenting Articles

Time In

The popular “time-out” behavior management technique is less harsh than traditional forms of discipline, but it’s still a punishment—like a mini jail sentence. Time-outs usually include a shame component as well (e.g., the “Naughty Chair”)....

Peeling the Onion

When I talk with my kids, I love sharing analogies of how the natural world is reflected in their bodies. One of my favorite ones is this: Your body is like an onion. Layers of experiences and responses build up: falls, injuries, positioning;...

Chiropractic Brings New Hope

I had a difficult pregnancy, difficult delivery, and then a baby that didn’t sleep. Lincoln was sick all the time—ear infections, upper respiratory infections, you name it. Just before his second birthday, he broke his leg. He ended up having a bon...

ADHD: More of It, Better Diagnosis, or Both?

“[Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders 5 (DSM-V)] is a wholesale imperial medicalization of normality that will trivialize mental disorder and lead to a deluge of unneeded medication treatment—a bonanza for the pharmaceutical ind...

After the Break-Up

Having a Positive Divorce is Up to You…But if You Have Kids, You’ll Have to Heal on Two Levels at OnceDivorce hits every aspect of your life. There is no escaping the waves of disbelief mixed with relief and terror and joy. It’s a very...

Ask What, Not How

As a play coach, I conduct workshops to help adults reconnect with the skills and perspectives that encourage play, which are often dormant in grown-ups. In one of my Remembering to Play events, a father shared that his young son expressed interest...

The Beauty of Fathering During Pregnancy: What Babies are Teaching Us

Our core understandings of babies and early human experience are in the midst of a fundamental paradigm shift. In my article “Consciousness at the Beginning of Life,” published in the previous issue of Pathways [Issue 57, Spring 2018], I...

How Kids Benefit from Real Responsibilities

Years ago, my two older kids, about 7 and 9 at the time, were getting ready to wash the floor. A neighbor girl knocked at the door, asking to play. When my son told her he was going to wash the floor first, she begged to be included. This girl had...

Competition VS. Creativity: Which "State" Do You Live In

We civilized folk seem to be addicted to competition—obsessed with who is the best and the worst, who has the most and the least, who are the winners and the losers. In our culture we habitually frame most everything in terms of conflict and...

5 Ways Partners Can Support Breastfeeding Moms (A Dad's Perspective)

When I read articles and stories about breastfeeding, I frequently come across the comment that breastfeeding leads to a diminished role for the dad. After all, if only Mom can feed the baby, how will Dad get a chance to bond with his child? This...

Safe to Explode: The Actual Reason Children are 800 Percent Worse When Their Mothers are in the Room

“They were fine all day with me, but the second they saw you, they lost it, Kate! I don’t understand!” My husband says this on a regular basis.

Kids Don't "Fight" Sleep: What's Really Happening When Kids Resist Bedtime

We’ve all experienced kids “fighting” sleep—and boy, is it ever annoying! But are they really fighting it, or is something else going on? My oldest daughter could have been categorized as one who “fights sleep.” From the day she was born, those...

There Is No Normal

I got a letter the other day from a woman training to be a special education teacher in Ohio. Reading my book Teaching the Restless was bringing up her concerns about certain things she had observed during student teaching sessions with several...

Deschooling in School

The things I learned well have all been things I chose to learn. This is true for everyone I know, including the students I have had in my classroom for the past 25 years. Learning happens best when the learner decides what, how, and why to learn....

A Message from our Editor, Issue #58 - Guarding the Sacred Space

Almost daily, I see parents discussing the benefits of chiropractic care for their children. What many do not know is that chiropractors have included children in their recommendations for health and well-being since the inception of chiropractic....

A Message from our Editor, Issue #57- Mamatoto

The East African language Swahili has a word that captures the inseparableness of a mother and her newborn child: “Mamatoto.” It means “mother-baby,” and it shows us that the mother and baby share an experience as being fundamentally one.

Consciousness at the Beginning of Life

I began my career in the 1970s, as an obstetrical nurse and childbirth educator in Kentucky. I loved caring for parents as they birthed and raised their babies. To be at the leading edge of my work, I earned my master’s degree in early development a...

How Rest Saved My Soul

When a mom drives her minivan by an empty park in a raging thunderstorm and sits there for an hour, screaming and in tears, people might think she’s nuts. I know that’s what I thought of myself. You’ve completely lost it. You’re out of control...

Present from the Start

Allowing Your Child to Attend a Sibling’s Birth and Ways to PrepareI’m often asked whether it’s a good idea to have siblings attend the birth of their new brother or sister. It’s a question that’s almost impossible for anyone other than a...

My Baby is Unsettled: How Chiropractic Helps

Most new parents struggle when their baby is unsettled. It’s hard enough to adapt and care for a tiny human, but it takes an immense amount of energy and patience when that baby is uncomfortable and unwell. As a chiropractor, I know that c...