Parenting Articles

Playful Wisdom

In the quiet moments when Carly melts into my arms, there is attunement, resonance, shared meaning, trust, respect, appreciation, curiosity, wonder, all moving, changing, and so much more—embodied, nonverbal, silent. This silent, reciprocal a...

Authenticity: Rejecting the Job Model of Parenting for a Freer World

I believe that a free society is possible only if we change some of our fundamental premises about parenting. First, I will address the relationship I see between parenting and how we think about control, and the type of society we create. Then I...

Ambition Addiction: How To Go Slow, Give Thanks and Discover Joy Within

Before becoming a father, I thought I would love snow days. I imagined whipping up pancakes for a half dozen chattering cherubs, then stuffing my animated offspring into cocoons of puffy outerwear and the lot of us diving from the front porch into...

The Guy on the Plane

Most people assume that if you enjoy being around people, if you are gregarious and charming and outgoing, that you must be an extrovert. However, by strict definition an extrovert gets his energy from being with people, while an introvert gets...

The Question that Changed the Way I Parent Forever

I really enjoy hearing different perspectives about child-rearing. Sometimes when I’m driving I’ll listen to different parenting podcasts. I don’t agree 100 percent with everything I hear, but I take away bits and pieces that resonate with me. I’ve...

What Is “Unconditionality”?

Unconditional love is widely considered to be one of the most valuable gifts that parents can give their children. Ironically, many parents set out to love their children unconditionally and then feel bad about themselves when they fall...

Safety First: Uniting Our Passion in the Vaccine Divide

A couple of years ago, I went to a press conference in Albany, New York, where Robert Kennedy Jr. was speaking regarding legislation that would mandate that meningitis vaccine and booster be added to the current vaccine schedule. (The bill has...

Five Reasons Your Birth Can Affect Your Baby and Your Parenting

When I meet a new mom, dad, and baby for the first time at a consultation for colic and sleep, I always start by asking them to tell me about the birth. Mostly I’m met with confusion, wrinkled eyebrows, and curious looks. Very often they ask me w...

Teaching Babies in the Womb

How Fetal Experiences Can Impact Your BabyAfter more than 35 years of research, it is now well documented that fetal intelligence exists in the womb. There is even a bumper sticker stating, “The Womb Is a School and All Babies Attend.”...

Bliss Before Birth

The Effects of a Mother’s Thoughts and Emotions on her Unborn ChildHow can you best support your baby’s growth and development during your pregnancy? Do your thoughts and feelings affect him?

What Mothers Need to Know About Giving Birth

That birth is a cooperative action between the mother and baby. That babies try very hard to assume the best position for birth.

This Is a Mother's Love

I recall vividly the first night our son, Harper, slept at home with us. He was all of two days old. He slept right next to us in a tiny hammock thing. The idea that he was now on the outside of my body was so bizarre to me that no matter where he...

The Last Time

From the moment you hold your baby in your arms, you will never be the same.You might long for the person you were before,When you have freedom and time,

The Blessed State: A Conversation with Mila Furstova

Mothering brings us into another level of consciousness in which we share our inner life. How does having children affect our artistic expression when we are dedicated to a talent, a vocation, or a career? For some, it can mean putting aside that...

Honest Disagreement in a Pro-Vaccine World

A while back, I received a comment from “Anonymous” in response to one of my blog posts. She expressed dismay that she had to rely on other parents to vaccinate their children in order to keep her immunocompromised daughter with...

Whatever Happened to Winifred Gardella?

For years, this child with polio was the poster child for the March of Dimes. Read what happened next

Guard Your Peace

It’s taken me well into adulthood to establish a baseline for inner peace, and admittedly it’s become sacred to me. In my youth, I spent many years giving away my peace to any cause that came my way. It was understandable, in a way: It’...

Considerations For Pregnancy, Birth and Early Mothering

The more we understand about the human microbiome, the more fundamental it seems. Pregnancy, birth, and breastfeeding seed a child’s microbiome, and therefore have long-term effects on his or her health. More research is needed to explore h...

Are We Making Our Children Sick?

Sometimes even the best of intentions have unforseen consequences Chronic illness has become the new normal for children. Yet much of what is being done to children— medications they receive like Tylenol and antibiotics, t...

The Arc of Healing

When your child is sick, you don’t need to freak out. One thing I teach all my clients is that symptoms follow an arc. Like every process, there is a cycle to healing: a beginning, middle, and an end.