Power and the Family
To be passionate about the intricacies of our lives without being attached to specific outcomes, while simultaneously living true within our own skins, is a sure sign of authentic power and spiritual mastery. When we attach to labels, narrow scopes, rigid perspectives and definitive desires, we slowly but surely give away our power to an external source. With each need for a preferred singular outcome and the masks that we use to maneuver it, we lose a piece of our soul’s creative impetus (always aimed at serving the highest good for all) and resist the multi- faceted outcome, often hidden yet available. This is a life lesson that I have been working on continuously for the past few years, and one that I hope to offer my children to propel them toward lives whereby they can consciously access inner power and creative freedom.
Look closely at your own expectations that crop up every time you enter into a new arena of choices. Most of us turn preferences into must-have-at-all-costs equations that create stress, anxiety, and less-than-ideal creative situations, binding us to specific results and drowning our highest potential in a sea of untruths and misperceptions. If we can balance our passion and work efforts—each a proactive and necessary aspect of creating a desired reality—with a more fluid, relaxed, open and joy-filled flow, we move into our interior power and expand exponentially our capacity to create beyond often-limited expectations. Most of us do not perceive ourselves to be anywhere near the powerful creators that we truly are. More often than not, we condemn ourselves to contrived, narrow results that are so much less than what we are actually capable of creating for ourselves and the world at large. As we parent our children, it is important to help them recognize the source of their own power to create freely from the inside out, without the imagined external constraints of bygone eras.
The world has changed, and we must change with it by moving into a deeper understanding and expression of our individual power to shape what we see. It is no longer possible to comfortably sit back and unconsciously create, ignorant of our responsibility and accountability for what occurs in our lives. It’s time to wake up to our own power as creators and teach our children to do the same. It behooves the human species tremendously for our young to recognize as early as possible their infinite capacity to choose and create from a heartfelt place of self-love, oneness, tolerance and compassion for all. Parents must lay the groundwork now, by first contemplating and integrating these spiritual truths and then modeling and teaching their children what it means to be a conscious global citizen.
Every individual matters as we seek to evolve the entire planet to a higher consciousness. As parents, we must participate fully by uncovering our own wounds and threads of resistance through inner work—meditation, counseling, anger processes, forgiveness exercises, healing modalities, 12-step programs, solitude, journaling, gardening, bowling, exercising, dancing—whatever it takes to open up to our own infinite and true internal power sources. Through this parental leadership, future generations will learn to deal with “psychic debris” as it occurs, rather than after it does unnecessary damage to themselves and others.
True power stems from interior and exterior balance, the path to harmonic living. Teach and model for your children the subtle, yet highly beneficial balance of inner focus—contemplation, observation, reflection, receptivity and awe—with the outer focus of proactivity and productivity. If we can teach our children to utilize this continual ebb and flow of their own energies, they will be able to become the powerful, conscious creators they are meant to be. This interior/exterior harmony, coupled with authentic living that bathes us in intoxicating joy, gratitude and freedom to be fully ourselves, will change our world. Wars, morality laws, and restrictions on personal freedom are simply Band-Aids to the issues of our day that no longer serve our species. The call now is to harness our own power and become increasingly comfortable in our own skins, as we begin to see ourselves in a new light—powerful, eternal, intuitive, creative, spiritual beings who flow with life rather than force life through rigid, outdated expectations and hidden agendas.
If we begin to create from both the heart and an inner knowing of who we really are—integral, powerful aspects of a divine whole so magnificent that we cannot fully wrap our minds around it—we become higher versions of ourselves, live up to our full potential, and fulfill our soul’s intended mission. Now is the time to snap out of a victim/blame mentality, to take full responsibility for both our interior and external worlds, and to teach our children, through our examples, to do the same. I encourage all parents to take the time to do the inner work that on some level we understand we must face. Resistance to personal truth and power no longer serves parents, children or the world at large. The time is now—first to discover the true personal power within us, and then to offer it passionately up and out to all.
This article appeared in Pathways to Family Wellness magazine, Issue #45.
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